Observing people, we tend to make up our mind about them very quickly.  Let us say that you see someone at a party eating before everyone else. Your initial reaction will likely be, “How greedy!”  You have no way of knowing that he is severely diabetic and needs to eat at that time. When you see someone talking a lot, resist the temptation to dismiss her as a talkative woman.  You have no way of knowing that she is suffering from loneliness, and desperately needs someone to talk to. A boy in your class is having trouble reading. Do not dismiss him as being stupid; he may be dyslexic.  

In judging others, we rely on our own experiences and beliefs, which are not shared by millions of people around the world.  One culture finds it completely normal for men and women to interact with each other while another frowns upon it. In many countries such as India, Korea and Vietnam, it’s perfectly normal for men to walk hand in hand and with arms around one another, but this takes on a whole different meaning in some parts of the world.  Two young men from India, both recent arrivals in San Francisco, found this out the hard way.

For one person it is considered rude to burp at the dining table, whereas for another it shows appreciation of the food, and is therefore, a compliment to the hostess.  It is indeed easy to judge others by our own standards, but we feel the pain when being judged by others.

Do not be quick to judge.


Yours,

Didi Ji