We do not desire only that which is good, or fragrant, or beautiful. Our likes and dislikes and our tastes and distastes are dictated by our attachments. Alcohol smells great to a drinker, but not to a teetotaler. A mother often puts her mouth on her child’s mouth. An onlooker is disgusted. To him the child smells bad, but the child’s mother disagrees completely. Her attachment to the child transforms foul smell to fragrance.

A child becomes separated from his mother in a crowd. The mother is absolutely frantic. She rushes to the nearest police station. While there, she sees a number of children who have also been separated from their parents. She is asked to identify her child, but she just shakes her head because her child is not there. From the description she gives of her child, it is obvious that there are so many better-looking children than her child. And yet she does not want any of the other children. She wants her own child back. So, we cannot say that beauty is a source of desire. If it had been, the woman would have preferred to take one of the other children home with her. The fact is that a beggar desires as much pleasure in embracing her sickly, diseased child as does a queen in embracing her well-dressed and charming son, the crown prince. The reason is attachment.

Attachments are born in our mind when we repeatedly reflect that someone or something is going to provide us with happiness that we desire. If you think again and again that the material world is the source of happiness, you will form attachments in the world.

If you repeatedly reflect on God as the giver of true happiness, you will become attached to Him.


Didi Ji