The best kind of ship is ‘friendship.’ Friends are a special breed. Chances are that you have friends. You may have many; you may have a few; you may have just one good friend. Did you ever take the time to befriend yourself? Yes? Good! No? Let’s fix that. Here’s what you need to do.

Spend time with yourself. How did you get to be such good friends with your BFF? By spending time with him/her. Do the same with yourself. Spend time alone and ask yourself questions such as, “What do you like to do in your free time,” “What are your hobbies,” and “What are the things that are important to you in life?”

Take care of yourself. Maintain your physical health by eating properly, exercising and getting enough rest. Take care of your spiritual health by having faith in God and spending time in meditational prayer. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to say ‘no’ when you cannot manage. Don’t push yourself to the brink just to please others. You are not doing any favors to yourself by doing that.

Forgive yourself. You wouldn’t beat up a friend over something from the past, would you? You wouldn’t do that to someone you care deeply for. Then why are you beating yourself up over past failures, weaknesses and mistakes? Let bygones be bygones and move on. You are not the sum total of all that you have done wrong in life.

Help yourself. Sometimes, the greatest help you can give yourself is by asking it from others. Don’t hesitate to admit that you can’t do it all alone; that you need help. Mental health is very important. Don’t take chances to jeopardize it. Don’t try to be Wonder Woman or Super Man. These are fictional characters. Take help from family and friends and from various resources that are available to you.

Love yourself. Understand your true worth. Give yourself a pat on the back for all the goodness that’s in you. Don’t let others define you; they don’t know you as well as you know yourself. Love yourself. You deserve it!

Happy Mothers’ Day to all the mothers!


Didi Ji